Bird Nest: Advantages and Disadvantages of this Custody Option

Parents often ask me to describe what options they have for their post-divorce living arrangements. In addition to the many ways it is possible for children go back and forth between two residences, there is also the possibility of having children stay in the home they are currently living in while the parents move in and out. This is sometimes described as “the children get the house,” “Bird Nest,” or just “nesting.”

The Advantages

• Said to be child-centric: it focuses on the needs of the children.
• Children are able to continue to live in their home for a greater sense of stability.
• Minimizes the difficulty for children of living in two places, like forgetting homework, toys, clothing, or other belongings at the other parent’s home.
• Parents might be better able to handle the experience of moving back and forth between their residences than the children might be.

Bird Nest: Advantages and Disadvantages of this Custody Option

How It Works

The parents move in and out of the home according to the parenting plan they have established. This might include a situation where one parent spends the night with the children. The other parent comes to the house when the first parent goes to work and is at the home until the working parent comes home, often after dinner. The daytime parent then goes to their “other” residence. This arrangement could change depending on which parent is spending the night with the children.
Alternately, one parent can live in the home with the children for one week, then the other lives with them the following week. This is what as known as a week on/week off arrangement.
In a 2003 case in Ontario, Canada (Greenough v Greenough), the judge court-ordered parents to implement a Bird Nest arrangement—which they had not requested—until the hearings on the case could continue.

In the case record, Justice Quinn wrote:

“The court made a Bird Nest custody arrangement in which the children (aged 3 and 5 years) remained in the home, with the mother staying in the home during the week and the father on the weekend. I think that the benefits of a Bird Nest order are best achieved where the children are able to stay in the matrimonial home, particularly if it has been the only residence that they have known…
“Time and time again I have seen cases (and this is one) where the children are being treated as Frisbees. In general, parents do not seem to appreciate the gross disruption to which children are subjected where one of the parents has frequent access. In this regard, I do not believe there must be evidence that the children are suffering before the court is free to act. To me, it is a matter of common sense. At the risk of falling prey to simplistic generalities, I am of the view that, given a choice, I do not see why anyone would select a living arrangement which involved so much movement from house to house.”
Justice Quinn clearly saw the advantages to the children of living in the home they were most familiar with and of having little change in their day-to-day lives, and saw the role of the court as instrumental in advancing this option on behalf of the children.

The Disadvantages

• It is expensive. Unless the parents are able to share the residence in which the children do not live, they are looking at having three residences, one for the children and one for each parent when they are not living with the children.
• It requires a large degree of civility between the parents and the ability to get along and make decisions together. In general, the absence of conflict is the best indicator of resiliency for children, both in a marriage and post-divorce. A Bird Nest situation, especially, cannot work if there is conflict. Co-parents who choose this model might consider working with a mediator or other professional who can assist in discussing the fine-tuning necessary to make the arrangement workable.
• It does not take into consideration what would happen when one or both parents enter a new relationship. Even before this aspect of “moving on” occurs post-divorce, both parents often need to individuate from each other and establish separate lives in order to disentangle from the marriage relationship they had with each other. Bird Nest does not adequately foster this aspect of divorcing.
• House rules: in order for parents’ movements to occur in a non-disruptive manner, both parents would need to have similar rules and house cleaning sensibilities. “House rules” need to be established to avoid creating a situation where children need to remember which rules are in place on which days, or at which times, depending on which parent is “on.”
These lists are not exhaustive. Clearly, Bird Nest is not for everyone. The question remains whether it is for even doable for a small percentage of divorcing families. We do know that when parents live in close proximity to each other, when the children have easy access between homes, and are not subject to ongoing conflict, children of divorced families are quite resilient and do as well as children from families where there is no divorce. This might be a solution that is just shy of Bird Nest: good neighbors.

Benefits of Bird Nest

Bird Nest is 100% organic coral grass, a valuable gift from sea. It is grows naturally and contains no artificial fertilizer and no bleaching chemical. Why should eat Bird Nest? This organic seaweed is rich in enzyme nutrients, minerals, calcium, iron, multitude fibers and jelly form proteins. It is especially good for skin care, vegetarian diet and daily fiber diet intake. It is the perfect health food for the children, pregnant women, menopausal woman, the elderly, vegetarian and all human-being.

Features of Bird Nest are below :

• collagen are 10 times higher than Bird Nest.
• calsium are 37 higher than fish liver.
• PH worth 7.6

Eucheuma Cottonii Seaweed nutrition details (per 100g):

Calcium 671(mg) Iron 671(mg) Magnesium 661(mg) Phosphorus 139(mg) Sodium 6.31% Salinity 15.7%
Ph on 4% solution 7.6% Energy 266(kcal) Protein 0.73g Carbohydrate 59.9g Total Lipid 0.05g Water 91.32g Fiber 0.5g Ash 1.36g
Bird Nest is 100% organic coral grass, a valuable gift from sea. It is grows naturally and contains no artificial fertilizer and no bleaching chemical, it is normal to have white crystalline substance is attached on seaweed, and it has an oceanic smell but is safe for consumption.

Benefits of “BIRD NEST”:

1) Adjust body weight and hormone, breast enhancement.
2) Antibacterial, Expulsion of toxin.
3) Eliminate constipation
4) Improve hypertension and hypo-tension
5) Create a beautiful skin
6) normalize the thyroid gland function
7) helps improve metabolism. improve stomach functions.
9) helps to Eliminates nephritis, Arthritis, Dropsy.
10) Strengthens the blood vessel, Improve rheumatism, Collagen defect, Blood physique and Purpura hemorrhagic.
11) Improve Blood circulation, Cold and shoulder sore
12) effective for those who had Sarcoma or Tumor
13) slim up your abdomen and buttocks, soften skin and improve waist pain.
How to prepare seaweed to edible condition? Wash and soak the seaweed with clean tap water for about 2 hours until seaweed expanded into a loose. After soaked, rinse with cold water, drain and serve; Keep fresh in refrigerator for later consumption.
Expiry date: 6 months (Keep in cool/ dry place, beware of sun light.)
GRADE AND TYPE
Grade AAA - colored violet / purple
Grade AA - Yellow / yellow / white
Grade A - Color brown.

EASY RECIPE - MUST TRY OUT YOURSELF

RECIPE 1:
Bird Nest with Rock Sugar
Ingredients: Red Jujube, Dried Longan, Rock Sugar, Dried Eucheuma Cottonil Seaweed, Ginger juice.
Cooking Method:
1. Put Seaweed into purify water for about 4 hours and than cut into pieces
2. Put Red Jujube, Rock Sugar and Longan into pot, add in water, boiled for half an hour, add in Giner juice and boil for another 5 minits.
3. Let cool off and add in Seaweed and serve.
(Note: You can boil Seaweed together with Rock Sugar, Longan and Red Jujube if you want the Seaweed totally Dissolve)
RECIPE 2:
Vegetable Seaweed Salad
Ingredient:Eucheuma Cottonii Seaweed, Cucumber, Carrot, Greens Vege, Soy Sauce, Fruits Vinegar, Olive Oil.(Note: Can also add in chilli, Garlic, Tomato and etc)
Produce Method:
Soak the seaweed in purify water for about 4 hours, cut into small stick form, cucumber and carrot cut into filiform. Put all the Ingredients into a plate, sprinkles the sauce, fruits vinegar and olive oil, Agitate and serve. Also can add in wasabi sauce, barbecue sauce, seaweed sauce or satay sauce as your wish.
RECIPE 3:
Seaweed Pudding
Produce Method No 1:
Cook the dried longan and red jujube as soup, Filters out the sediment, add in rock sugar juice and seaweed (after soaking and cut into pieces), cook for another 20 minutes, let cool off and Pours into the mold, place in Refrigerator and done.
Produce Method No 2:
Soak 250g of seaweed, put into blender, add in cold water and blended into pappy, pouring into pot and cook till boiled and dissolved. Add your choice of fruits, Pours into the mold; place in Refrigerator and done. Our Seaweed Plant and Processing Area